Saturday, November 29, 2008

love and marriage, love and marrige, they go together like....

So my mother 'sneakily' tried to leave this USA today article on my bed before I came down for the holidays so I could 'stumble' upon it. The article is entitled 'Young People: average age of getting married for women is 26 and men is 28'. (By clicking you too can read this enlightening piece of work). Well of course I read the damn article- which may I just say didn't hold a compelling argument for either getting married older or younger. Basically, in my mind, it flip flopped and said some people get married young others get married older -really you don't say?
I don't know how much I can believe in all the hype about getting married older. They draw comparisons to when our parents got married which was typically when they were around 20. Well obviously! Most women didn't go to college- so their main purpose was to get married and start a family. Now of course, most people do go to college- they finish at age 22 (ish ha!) Then a lot go onto grad school, med school, get their masters, etc.
I am a firm believer that if people grow and learn in love together then that is how people will know they are ready for marriage. If couples have been through hard times and made it through and learned from the situation. If people want to get married at 18, that is fine (my parents did and are together happily after almost 40 years!) My parents met when they were 10- dated throughout most of high school then got married right before my dad went into the army. My parents are each others best friends, which I think is also essential for a relationship. You have be able to be open and honest with each other just like any friendship you have in life.

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Indecent Proposal

So on the most Thankful day of the year I watched Incedent Proposal. I've never seen it before- if you watch or have seen it you know what I mean- but it is incredibly far fetched. A rich billionaire offers a couple 1 million dollars for one night with the wife. They at first say no, but they then decide its a good idea to get their life started together. They think that they can forgive and forget easily. I won't say anymore, I would never spoil a movie.
But it really got me thinking about relationships. Not only those between a man and woman, but also friendships, all relationships in general. One quote I thought that was quite inspirational was: "I thought we were invincible. But now I know that the things that people in love do to each other, they remember. And if they stay together, it's not because they forget. It's because they forgive." Wow....isn't this sooo incredibly true? I look at my own relationships with my boyfriend, friends, parents- it is all about forgiving. I don't honestly think I could ever forget all of the bullshit people have put me through, but if I hadn't forgiven people, I doubt I would even have friends or be where I am now. As I say that it makes me very sad. Why do people do things to mess up something that is perfectly good? I have girlfriends who have told me how they mess up relationships because it is too perfect. Haven't we all...unfortunately....
I really like the first line of the quote that says I thought we were invincible. I truly believe everyone thinks their relationships are invincible, fool proof- and when it isn't- it's all about how you bounce back or move on or deal with it in general.
Anyway, on this day I am thankful that I am able to forgive (I am still working on fully forgiving). I am thankful I have people around me that support me, love me and cherish me and my friendship.
Until next time...

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

It's been awhile....

Well obviously I haven't posted in quite awhile. Some people have given me some inspiration to blog so I thought why is as good of time as any.

Anyway, I went back to my old account and read my old postings and it is very strange to read those things. Honestly, its been 3 years since I wrote about those things- Freshman/Sophomore years of college- and I cannot even begin to express how differently life it.

First of all, I would like to say I am more mature! I read some of the things..and it made me giggle..but you know those were the things happening in my life. Graduating college, the real world, work, and well...everything has changed. It is hard to go back and read all of the elements of my life- ie Kelly- and think about what life was like then.

Either way, life is good now, it's different, it's evolving, it's amazing.

That is really all for now- I am going to TRY to write consistently (we'll see how long that lasts!) Besides-- I am 23 starting tomorrow I need to have some responsibilities ! :)

shabby cheek